Boundaries and Limitations

About the deck

A deck about walls, fences and bridges: what stands between a person and what they want.

The deck holds 128 metaphorical associative cards with photographs of barriers, fences, symbolic and natural boundaries, objects, buildings and bridges.

All the cards share one meaning: they show what blocks a person, stops them, holds them off, limits them and creates an obstacle between them and their goal, or between them and another person.

The task of the deck is to help you see the boundary, understand its structure and its point, find out how long ago it appeared and what it guards against, and then decide whether to cross it or to strengthen it.

Both sides matter equally in the work: surplus limitations are lifted, and missing boundaries are built, because a person without boundaries wears out no less than a person locked inside them.

The deck can be used as a deep diagnostic, clarifying, deepening, situational, transformational and supporting tool in counseling, therapy, training and psychological transformation games.

With the “Boundaries and Limitations” deck you can

• see what exactly limits a person
• understand which obstacles stand on the way to a goal
• see the structure of a barrier and where it came from
• understand what this boundary protects you from
• determine whether the obstacle can be crossed or is a sign to stop
• notice where a boundary is missing and the person is being used
• see the barrier between yourself and another person
• find a way to make an opening in the wall
• tell a real obstacle from an invented one
• understand which limitations lost their point long ago

Questions to ask the deck

Work starts from these questions. Choose one, the one that speaks to you more strongly than the rest, and work with it, because only one boundary is taken apart well in a single session.

1. What limits me on the way to my goal?
2. Which boundary stands between me and this person?
3. Which barrier am I not aware of?
4. What does this limitation protect me from?
5. Who set this boundary, and when?
6. What will happen if I cross it?
7. Which boundary do I need but do not set?
8. Where do I stop every single time?
9. What do I consider impossible for me?
10. Which limitation is no longer relevant?
11. Where am I used because I do not refuse?
12. What do I need in order to take the first step?

The whole series

“Inner World” is 10 decks that work as a single system: the weather inside, states, boundaries, needs, spaces, relationships, resource and motivation, supports, opportunities and freedom.

See the whole series →