Childhood Influences & Consequences

About the deck

A deck about who and what shaped us, and about the person we became as a result.

The deck holds 80 metaphorical associative cards, divided into three parts by the color of the background.

Twenty light cards describe who or what influenced us in childhood. Thirty darker ones show who we became under that influence. Thirty of the darkest describe what never came true in childhood, what fell apart or broke and changed us deeply.

This structure gives the full chain: who influenced you, how it showed, and what still hurts. You can work with any part on its own or go through the whole chain.

The main value of the deck is that it separates the qualities a person took on out of necessity from the ones that are genuinely theirs.

The deck can be used as a deep diagnostic, clarifying, deepening, transformational and supporting tool in counseling, therapy, training and psychological transformation games.

With the “Childhood Influences & Consequences” deck you can

• understand who and what influenced us in childhood
• see the painful situations that left their mark
• see who we became under that influence
• understand what never came true, what broke and what wounded you
• remember what truly mattered in childhood
• explain the way you behave today
• separate a destructive influence and give it back where it came from
• understand what it is long past time to accept
• heal an old pain
• see a quality that was never yours to begin with

Questions to ask the deck

Work starts from these questions. Choose one, the one that speaks to you more strongly than the rest, and work with it, because only one chain is worked through well in a single session.

1. Who influenced me so much that it shaped my whole life?
2. Which influence do I still not accept?
3. What broke my heart?
4. What mattered a great deal and never came true?
5. Who did I become when I should not have?
6. What was lost in childhood, and how?
7. Which situation is it time to let go of?
8. What is it time to come to terms with?
9. What still hurts and takes my energy?
10. What do I need to change in myself?
11. Which quality was never mine to begin with?
12. Who was a good influence on me that I have forgotten about?

The whole series

“World of the Inner Child” is 12 decks that work as a single system: anchors of the past, deficits, childhood influences, psychological defenses, healing, beliefs, limitations, resources and pillars.

See the whole series →