Children's Habits

About the deck

A deck about the actions that repeat every day and quietly build a child’s life.

The deck holds 80 metaphorical associative cards with the most common childhood habits: 40 helpful and 40 harmful.

A habit is an action that took shape at some point and became steady. Some habits help a child grow, others quietly keep them from learning, making friends and taking care of themselves.

When a child, together with a grown-up, sees their habits and understands which of them they need and which they do not, they get the chance to live more consciously and in their own favor.

The deck also suits work with grown-ups on the inner child, because many habits that came from childhood keep running years later.

The deck can be used as a diagnostic, clarifying, deepening, resourcing and supporting tool in counseling, therapy and psychological transformation games. It works within the “Children's World” series, on its own, and as a deepening tool in the game of the same name.

With the “Children's Habits” deck you can

• see how a child acts day after day
• notice what brings a negative result into their life
• introduce them to helpful habits and show what those are for
• teach them to swap a harmful habit for a less harmful one, and then for a helpful one
• understand what will help them reach their goals and feel good
• see from the outside how their friends and classmates act
• notice where a habit appeared as a way to manage a hard situation
• understand which habits parents pass on by their own example
• correct in time what would later become a trait of character
• settle a new habit in through repetition, not through banning the old one

Questions to ask the deck

Work starts from these questions. Choose one, the one that speaks to you more strongly than the rest, and work with it, because only one habit is taken apart well in a single meeting.

1. What is my most noticeable habit?
2. What will help me get what I want?
3. What do I need to change to make life better?
4. Which helpful habits are worth growing in me?
5. Which harmful habits should I let go of?
6. Which habits do I use most often?
7. What do I need to change in my behavior?
8. Which habit shows in me without my noticing it?
9. What strengths do I already have?
10. What helps me settle my question?
11. What keeps me from settling my question?
12. Which habit did I take on from grown-ups?

The whole series

“Children's World” is 8 decks that work as a single system: fears and complexes, behaviour patterns, habits, beliefs, feelings, emotions and mood, abilities and teen motivation.

See the whole series →